http://www.disabledchristians.com/help-afraid-i-wont-fall-in-love-disability/ Faith, God and Disabilities Sat, 04 Sep 2010 02:57:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://www.disabledchristians.com/help-afraid-i-wont-fall-in-love-disability/comment-page-1/#comment-126 12Percent Fri, 29 Jan 2010 03:40:36 +0000 http://www.disabledchristians.com/?p=66#comment-126 Wow, thats a tough one. Being aspergers autistic I have always had a tough time connecting with other people. I can tell you what God has taught me. Its just me though, it may not be applicable for anyone else. I went through the phase for years saying I want to fall in love, i want to get married, I want her to look like this, I want her to like quantum physics, I want her to act like this, etc.. Then one day God opened my eyes. My desires we're completely self-centered. "I" am the subject of all those above sentences. It was all about me, completely self-centered. Love and self centeredness are diametrically opposed. It's like going to hell to buy an ice cream cone. Its not there, nor will it ever be there. So my search for a mate took a turn to 'what can I do for her', can I do something to fulfill her desires?, can I get into her interests? The focus of the questions changed and then it happend. God put a woman into my path, who had been sexually abused as a child. She obviously had trust issues with the male species and thought she was going to remain single. But she said I was a breath of fresh air becuase I was different then the average male. I was able to put my self-centeredness aside and fill a need in her life. And that is the start of love. When you put the individual before yourself. Wow, thats a tough one. Being aspergers autistic I have always had a tough time connecting with other people. I can tell you what God has taught me. Its just me though, it may not be applicable for anyone else. I went through the phase for years saying I want to fall in love, i want to get married, I want her to look like this, I want her to like quantum physics, I want her to act like this, etc.. Then one day God opened my eyes. My desires we’re completely self-centered. “I” am the subject of all those above sentences. It was all about me, completely self-centered. Love and self centeredness are diametrically opposed. It’s like going to hell to buy an ice cream cone. Its not there, nor will it ever be there. So my search for a mate took a turn to ‘what can I do for her’, can I do something to fulfill her desires?, can I get into her interests? The focus of the questions changed and then it happend. God put a woman into my path, who had been sexually abused as a child. She obviously had trust issues with the male species and thought she was going to remain single. But she said I was a breath of fresh air becuase I was different then the average male. I was able to put my self-centeredness aside and fill a need in her life. And that is the start of love. When you put the individual before yourself.

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